When you invite comments you should be ready for whatever may come your way. My favorite doorperson is a funny, friendly pro. We've been chatting for years. When I asked her how she was greeting the Trump presidency, she spouted some pretty strong racist stuff while embracing Trump. When I asked her if she worried about eventually losing medicare or social security, she said:"Oh, that will never happen."
I thought about the literature surrounding domestic violence. There's a lot of false optimism among those who choose to stay.